Questions and Tidying Up

Thanks everyone for the questions and suggested topics you’ve sent over the past couple of days! I figured I would answer a few of the questions that don’t need anything more than a few sentences, and then list out some of the longer topics that I’ll try and cover more in depth. So, first off, here are a few quick answers:

  • I am located in the US, so all of my experience with ordering diapers is basically only through US companies (and Rearz, which is in Canada, so close enough). For those who visit this blog from Europe, I do know of a few UK/German based retailers, namely Cuddlez, BetterDry/Crinklz, Dotty the Pony, and Nappies R Us. The last one is actually a general UK-based reseller for, well, basically everything, so if you want a one-stop-shop for all nappies without the ridiculous shipping charges, check them out. They also have proprietary diapers under the “Get Nappied” brand which does have one of my favorite prints, the Lil’ Rascals.
  • Shipping speed: Again, being in the US, I’ve basically only dealt with US companies (save for Rearz). In my experience, every single company has their shit together and will usually get you your package within a week. Northshore earns bonus points as they will even do next day shipping for no extra cost, which is kind of crazy. Rearz does usually take a bit longer, but as it does have to go through international shipping, this is understandable, and I don’t think I’ve ever had to wait longer than a week and half for an order from them. Most of the companies I order from are quite large, and I have heard some horror stories of people trying to order through newer/smaller companies, so do be wary of that. I will say, my main problem is usually with diapers being out of stock, not with how quickly they arrive.
  • Shipping discreteness: Every single ABDL package I have ever received has been in an unmarked brown box with only the shipping label. Sometimes, the companies even go one step further to obfuscate the contents by having a pseudo-company name as the return address (i.e. ABU being sent from Strom Holdings). I might be a bit braver than most, but I have never been worried about having to pick up one of these packages from the main office of my apartment complex. If you live with others, don’t want packages of diapers sitting outside your door, or have any other reason, you can usually have packages held at a distribution center. I know this is the easiest with UPS, as they will hold any package at a UPS store, which are fairly common.
  • As far as precautions go for keeping my mattress/sheets dry, I only use a disposable diaper and washable bed pad. If I really wanted to, I could wear plastic pants over my diaper, or put a waterproof mattress protector over my whole mattress. I do neither of these as I have had very little problems with leaking, and I find both to be a tad bit uncomfortable.

Now, for the topics I will delve further into:

  • It seems a few people are interested in cloth diapers. These are almost certainly the best for nighttime protection, especially if you sleep on your side, but I have minimal experience with cloth diapers compared to disposable. I bought 2 prefolds about 4 years ago, but they became worn out earlier this year and I disposed of them. Currently, I have a single Rearz cloth pocket diaper and that’s it. In general I prefer the feel of disposable diapers over cloth (and I hate laundry), but I can certainly order some cloth diapers and try them out for other people’s benefit.
  • I plan to write about my history of being an ABDL, and basically what got me to this point of pursuing nighttime incontinence. This would likely just be a single standalone blog post. I might add how to get to know other ABDLs/join local ABDL communities into this post, or I might make that it’s own separate post. We’ll see how long it gets.
  • Anything else people request that I can put my 2 cents into!

In more boring news, I am going to be trying to organize my blog a bit better, having different links for updates, guides, and unrelated posts like these. Basically, I just want the blog to be a bit more user friendly, rather than a long scroll through months of writing. Hopefully, this means you’ll notice a bit snazzier of a blog in a week or so. Until then, stay padded my friends.

Journeyman Bedwetter

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Other Posts On this Blog?

So, it’s been about a month since I’ve started this blog, and, to be honest, I can’t really think of anything else I’ll have to write about relating to bedwetting aside from the updates. The thing with these is that, come a month or two down the line, they will likely be relegated to once every 2 weeks, once a month, or just whenever I hit milestones, which could potentially be even longer.

Basically, I don’t want this blog to be void of any new content for longer than a week, both for the people who follow this blog (I know there’s at least one of you out there! Shoutout to my first follower!), but also because I like writing about inane ABDL bullshit. So the question becomes “what do I write about”?

I was thinking about doing diaper reviews, as I do have quite a vast array, but there is already such a good database of diaper reviews, along with capacity tests, over at ADISC that whatever I write would likely be redundant. However, one thing I haven’t really seen is “bedwetting specific” diaper guides, so I might do something like wear the same kind of diaper to bed for a week, then write a review on how well it works as nighttime protection.

Other than this, I could write about general ABDL things, like good online communities (although you likely either came from one, or are aware of most), or how to meet local ABDL communities, but I’m struggling for ideas past that.

This is where you come in! Please, share your ideas of what I could write about, either in this comment section, through the form on the “Questions? Just Ask!” tab, or directly to my e-mail at JourneymanBedwetter@hotmail.com. I would love to hear any and all ideas!

Happy Daddy Day,

Journeyman Bedwetter

Rewards and Punishments

As I have mentioned previously, I wanted to start a sort of “reward” system for my bedwetting training. Rewards give positive reinforcement for doing something, which is why they are so often used with children for things like potty training, homework, and the like. Most of the time, the rewards for children are simple: stickers, pieces of candy, etc. But rewards do also exist for adults, like with bonuses for performing well at work. I know most of this is obvious, but I just wanted to set up the contrast between the positive reinforcement of rewards, and the negative one of punishments. Personally, I feel that rewarding good behavior works much better than punishing unwanted behaviors. Just ask any actual child/teen bedwetter who was punished for wetting the bed if the punishments made them stop. Almost certainly the answer is no, and the only result from the punishments were an even stronger connection between bedwetting and unhappiness. Of course, everyone is different, so if you think punishing your lack of success will work, or if you are into the “kinky” idea of punishments, have at it.

Anyway, I want to associate bedwetting with positive feelings and attitudes, so I plan to set up rewards for both accomplishing the tasks involved in training (such as setting the alarm and listening to the hypnosis), but also for when I eventually wet the bed successfully. These rewards will have to be quite different for a couple reasons. For one, accomplishing the tasks associated with my training should theoretically be something I do every night, so the reward can’t be anything too crazy. In contrast, wetting the bed successfully could very well take a couple of months to happen, and after that it will likely be sporadic for quite a while. Another reason the rewards have to be different is because doing my training regiment is something I can fully control, whereas having a true nighttime accident is practically entirely out of my control. Thus, I can’t make the reward for successfully wetting the bed something very important to my wants and needs, as I’ll just end up resenting the training and reward system, rather than truly seeing it as a reward.

As I have been mulling this over in my head for the last couple of weeks, I do already have an idea of a reward for wetting the bed: purchasing records. Of course, wetting the bed is a reward in and of itself, but I believe the records would be a nice bonus and “trophy” for accomplishing my goals. I love music, and I like to collect my favorite albums on vinyl for a variety of reasons. However, since I already listen to a lot of my music through streaming services for practicality, buying records is definitely a tertiary need of mine, and something that I can potentially go months without doing. The other good thing about records is that they cost about $10-$20 per record, which (at least with my earnings) is a perfect amount for a “reward”. Thus, going forward, I will allot myself 1 record for each time I wet the bed. In the far-off future, this will certainly change to be for every 2 nights consecutively, 3 nights consecutively, etc. as I simply cannot afford buying 5 records every week, but that also makes this an easy, flexible reward system. You (likely) don’t have quite the same passion for records as I do, but a similar reward system can be used for a myriad of things; you just have to identify tertiary wants in your life that help improve it, without being consequential on your overall mental health. So, for example, do you like smaller, cheaper indie games? Make them a reward, so you can still purchase and play the large releases, but splurge that $5-$10 as a reward. Do you play a game with in-game purchases (if you use them)? Play the game normally, but only buy the credits or whatever after a successful nighttime accident. Love ABDL stuff? Only buy a new pacifier/onesie/stuffie as a reward. You get the idea.

Now, the “daily” reward is still something I’m struggling to come up with, and sadly this is the much more pertinent one. The struggle stems from coming up with something I would actually want on a daily basis, but that isn’t so important to my daily life that not having it will be seen as a punishment, as opposed to a reward for having it. So, for example, having candy as a reward doesn’t work because, unlike a child, it’s not something I actually want on a daily basis. Conversely, a “reward” of being allowed to drink soda is more of a punishment, as soda is so integral to my productivity and mental normality (thanks caffeine addiction!) that not having it would be quite detrimental to my day. In a similar vein, rewards like “playing video games”, “watching TV”, or “wearing diapers” would really just be punishments of “not being able to play video games, watch TV, or wear diapers” (the last of which would lead to quite a few other issues with this training anyway). To be honest, the front runner for my daily reward is (sorry for the lewdness) the ability to masturbate if I so choose. The issue with this is that it’s definitely not something I do on a daily basis. The combination of a demanding job and lower sex drive than when I was 18 makes it more of a “when the mood hits” rather than daily ritual type thing. The positives of this idea, however, are that I never know when that desire to masturbate will hit, so I’ll want to ensure that I always have the option. In addition, it is certainly not a need that I masturbate when the urge hits, but being denied the ability to do so will motivate me to complete the training tasks so I can do it the next day.

So, yeah, those are my ideas for the daily and long-term rewards. If you have any other ideas, please share, specifically for the daily reward as I’m not quite satisfied with mine. Other than that, here’s to another great week of training!

Week 3 Update

Another week, another trash can of used nappies. Again, this week didn’t go totally according to plan, but it went well enough. Five of the seven nights I remembered to set my alarm, woke up, and wet. The other two nights I purposely didn’t set the alarms, as I was up late watching the NBA and NHL finals and didn’t want to lose too much sleep. I also, again, listened to the hypnosis file 2 times over the course of the week, which is much less than I would like. Luckily, those sports are over, so hopefully my sleep schedule can be better for the foreseeable future.

In more exciting news, I do feel like I’ve finally made some form of progress. I would consider myself quite a heavy sleeper. Even 3 weeks ago, before I started setting the alarms, I would practically never wake up in the middle of the night when I had to pee; I would always wake up in the morning having to go fairly badly. Now, I find myself waking up again later in the night, after having previously waking up to the alarm, having to pee. I’ve gotten pretty decent at being able to just let go and fall back asleep, but I’m not gonna lie, sometimes the latter happens before I can do the former. There was even a time this week where I took about a 2 hour nap after work, woke up about an hour into it, peed immediately, and fell right back asleep. This is very promising. The more times I pee in the night, the more I normalize the action, and soon it can (hopefully) start happening without me having to wake up at all.

Overall, even though the progress has been slow, I would consider the training to be pretty successful so far. I still need to work on actually listening to the hypnosis before bed, and I hope that a “reward” system I plan on implementing will help. I mentioned this reward system in last week’s update, and will definitely try writing a short entry on it in the coming days.

Hugs and Cuddles,

Journeyman Bedwetter.

Week 2 Update

Well, week 2 has come and gone and, unsurprisingly, not much progress was made. Part of this was my own fault. I had a fairly busy week, so only was able to achieve a “good” night where I set the alarm, woke up, and peed 4 out of the 7 nights. In addition, I only listened to the hypnosis files twice before going to bed this week, which is definitely less than what I would have liked.

On the plus side, I do find it really easy to wake up to the alarms that I set, pee, and go right back to sleep. The main goal is obviously for this to happen without having to set the alarm, and eventually without me waking up at all, but baby steps (heh) are still something. At this time, even though I’ve noticed very little true “progress”, I don’t feel like there’s any reason to switch up my training regiment. Of course, I do need to follow this regiment better than I have, and I can’t lose faith that I’ll eventually achieve my goals.

On a side note, I’m probably going to start implementing a “reward” system for following the training and for (eventually) wetting the bed at night. I’ll write about these rewards more in depth soon, as I believe the positive reinforcement they provide could make this training just that slight bit more achievable.

Anyway, here’s to hoping next week goes a bit better (which, from my work schedule, it should), and that I can come back next week with a more significant improvement to share.

Cuddles,

Journeyman Bedwetter

Week 1 Update

Well, I have officially been training for one week now, and things have been going pretty well for the most part. I have had 5 “successful” nights over the past 7 days. One of those failures was the first night (which I already wrote about). The other was because I fell asleep earlier than usually on my couch, and hadn’t set an alarm or anything as it was pretty unexpected.

Other than those two nights, everything has been going great. I’m actually surprised at how consistently I wake up to the alarm I set, as I am quite the heavy sleeper. I’ve also been very consistent with actually peeing when I do wake up. One thing I want to practice is to try and not worry about leaks when peeing. There have definitely been a few times where I worry and check to make sure I didn’t leak when peeing in the middle of the night. I need to become comfortable with the idea of possibly leaking. It’s bound to happen, and it wakes up my mind more in the middle of the night when the alarm goes off, which I don’t want to happen.

The only other thing is that I have only listened to the hypnosis file about every other night. I’ve been kind of bad with the whole “be in bed prepared to get 9 hours of sleep” portion of my training, so some nights I just go to sleep rather than spending the 20 some minutes listening to the hypnosis beforehand.

So yeah, week 1 has overall been pretty successful for me. I have a few things I want to work on a bit (always listening to the hypnosis, stop worrying about leaks), but otherwise I feel like the first week has been a promising start to my journey. I’ll likely not make another update until next week, unless something big happens. I’ll see you guys then.

Nights 2 and 3

Well, the last two nights went perfectly as far as I’m concerned. Listened to the hypnosis, had the drinks on deck, woke up to the alarm, peed, drank, and fell back asleep super quickly. I actually barely remember waking up to do these things, but I know I did as my drink was empty in the morning, so it definitely wasn’t a dream. This is very promising to me. I want these nighttime interruptions to be more of a subconscious thing, rather than actively having to think about it. This means my body will start to just do it normally.

So yup, I feel this is going to be a great training regiment, and that I’m already well on the way to becoming a true bedwetter.